Our little African wedding - vs. the "their" traditional 

21/08/2016

D-Day was waiting for us. We wanted our wedding small, so we made it in a hurry so that no one would have time for any major preparations. Mommy loves big events from her husband and the wedding here is a huge event that is going to take a year. On Monday, we arranged everything at the offices, including the ceremony to take place in the parents' new house, and on Tuesday, we only briefly announced to everyone that there would be a wedding on Saturday. It was no surprise to anyone, but no one knew it would be in a few days. I had a lot of arrangements waiting for me, I didn't have a dress, we didn't have rings, I didn't witness anything. On Tuesday night we sat down, thought about everything and called witnesses. Here everyone has two - a man and a woman. On Wednesday we went to the salon, I chose a dress, the seamstress pushed so that they could be picked up on Friday. We chose rings right next to the wedding salon. Unfortunately, they were big, but they weren't smaller. I left everything else to my future mother-in-law. I was only in Africa for 4 months, with a two-month break in the Czech Republic, when we packed things for moving. Saturday was approaching and I still had no idea what was going to happen and how it would go. On the eve of the wedding, I slept with my future mother-in-law and my witness - her sister Fineza - and tried to find out more about tomorrow's course. I didn't speak Portuguese. There were a lot of questions running through my head. When should I say yes, they will ask something, there is a promise, will I have to say something? So I got a brief answer to some of them: "No, you don't have to say anything and I'll give you a sign for YES." : D I went to bed in peace. I woke up very early in the morning, the ceremony was supposed to start at 10.00, but nothing happened in the house. Not a hint that there should be a wedding. At 8.00 they took me to a prepared room, where a hairdresser and a make-up artist were waiting: D. Fineza, my witness, also came to help me dress up - this is a tradition. During the hairdressing and my visage, a courier came with a gift from my future husband. With great curiosity I opened the package and there was a set of pearl jewelry, earrings and a necklace. Around 10.45 a brother-in-law came for me and led me to the altar. Only now did I see the whole house and garden change in a matter of hours. It was full of people everywhere and my knees began to break. Also a bit from the fact that the bridesmaids held the siding, but forgot to go: D. The whole ceremony lasted about 90 minutes. My name and my husband's name fell several times, and I always looked at the witness at that moment to see if she was giving me a sign. It happened, the sign came and we finally said our destiny YES. But what was the surprise when we had to make a marriage vow that I was not prepared for. Fortunately, I could do it in English and I did it. Worse was the third step, when I had to say in Portuguese: "I marry you completely voluntarily." But I did that too. We are married. We wanted a small wedding, however, my new mother managed to prepare everything perfectly and managed to invite about 80 people: D.

Traditional African wedding: - preparation takes a year - The first step is an official ceremony at the office - The second step of the afternoon is a ceremony in the church - The third step is a huge party that lasts several days - the bride's witness always guides the newlyweds around the tables on arrival and presents each meal, this process sometimes takes up to 40 minutes - the tradition of newlywed dance and bouquet throwing also applies here, the whole wedding celebration is accompanied by a program, such as the groom's tie auction, the music is different, local, but also modern as we know from Europe- příprava trvá rok